Bittersweet ANNOUNCEMENT

I have made it official that twocupfull will not be a blog site anymore. I truly appreciate all of the following on here! If you guys want to follow me, feel free to follow my Youtube channel (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCr1Z1OXQ4qPnVWEddgwvi7A) This is the main platform I will be using. I will love you guys forever if you give this a follow. I talk about everything on here! I recommend to follow this if you want my blog post to be more vocal!

New Year. New Me

Happy 2020 everyone. It is time to step up and make changes in my life. Starting with new resolutions. I’m going set new habits to change who I am. Going to the gym 5 times a week, no junk food, only salads, and only water. So many changes in one go. Doesn’t feel overwhelming to keep up with each one? This is basically setting yourself up for failure. Not saying that these changes will not come but expecting them to happen all at once is unrealistic. Small changes is the key to success. If you want to start going to the gym try 2-3 times a week then bump it up to 4-5 times a week if you can squeeze in more time. Try to find recipes that can satisfy your cravings for sugar, salt, or snacks before starting to diet. Making a plan is the key to consistency. I hope you guys achieve you goals. What is your 2020 resolution?

What People Need To Hear

Everyone has that one friend that always vents about the same exact topic for the past week. It can get annoying for the listener to hear the same chatter over and over again. So what can you do in this situation? You can always nod you head yes and say yeah so they can vent. Sometimes, friends just someone to talk to and fume out their problems. However, there are so much we can take hearing the same thing over and over again. Well, it is obvious that they need to hear the truth that hear what they want to hear. How can we tell them our advice if they are always the one talking? Easy just ask them if they want a solution to their problem. Being straight forward to people can be helpful. You are not being mean, you are being honest. Another tip is to make sure that the person is solving their own problems. They cannot always rely on you when they have an issue. Let them solve it. You are just hinting at them what to do.

5 Easy Job Interview Skills That You Need To Learn

I wish that schools would implement more life skills in the school curriculum. The number 1 skill that students of the future generation should learn is how to interview for a job. We all have interviewed for the job that we currently have. Interviews are the first impression of the person and plays the major role of the job. Sadly, we are not taught about this in school, and they expect us to know this information by heart. Of course there is no specific way to act in the interview, but it is important to know how to interview in general. These are my personal top 10 skills that will make or break your interview.

  1. Make sure you learn more about the company. Doing a 5 minute research about the company will impress the hiring manager. It shows that you took your own time to learn more about the company. The important key points to focus on the research are what is the company’s mission statement and vision, awards and achievements, their competitors, and the culture.
  2. Dressing up according to the jobs field. Dress to impress may be a better way to phrase this tip, but not every job is the same. We need to make sure that you stand out from the crowd. For example, I job in the sports industry wants to make sure that the person wearing something sleek and sharp. This is where a sports coat will stand out more than a suit. If we look at all the sports spokemen, they are most likely wearing a sports coat with a slim fit shirt. Dress based on the job not just to look good.
  3. Learn how to read body language. This skill is under utilized in my opinion. You need to know how the interviewer is when you answer their questions. Are there key movements that they are doing like leaning in when you answer. May show that they are interested or confused. So this means you grabbed their attention and should talk a little more. Did they nod at you? This could mean that they agree with what you are saying. Learn these signs and you will go fair.
  4. Scope the office a little bit when you are entering in the interview. Look at the dress codes, see how the cubicles are set up, are there fun photos or poster hanging out. This will show how serious or casual the interview will be. Match your tone to the office.
  5. Relax those muscle. Don’t seem too tense at the interview. If you are stress during the interview, this will hint that you can’t work under pressure. Do lip exercises and breathe in the car. Go to your happy place.

Hopefully these skill can help you land your future job. I wish you the best of luck

Talkative Tuesday: Online Dating Cleanse

Online dating has slowly became the easiest way to find dates, and I am always for technology advancing to great lengths. What I have learned with these dating applications is quite a few lesson.

Bumble. Declared to be the best dating application for people looking for a great relationship. I believe it because the guys on the application are more relationship oriented. The first application that required a verification photo and filled with questions as ice breakers. My experience on Bumble was a boring experience. The guys on there were genuine but flakey. I do not like to wait for a guy to respond to me for a week to give me a reason why they could make it. We are adults, and they should not be afraid of rejection or hurting someone’s feelings. I have thick skin, and I don’t get offended easily. Guys may think they are doing us a favor by ignoring us, but they are making the situation worst in my opinion. Bumble may be a boring experience, but it was the best experience so far.

Tinder is where the iconic swipe left comes from. Easiest way to match with people with minimal effort. To me, this is an app where looks is more important than personality. The Netflix and chill definitely rooted from this app. If you are a type where you are looking for a deep connection, look somewhere else for that connection. Guys in here want to get to the point or play the game of cat and mouse. I rate this app a decent app for mature minded people, but amazing for college people that are shy. My experience was average, but I could do way better.

Last app is the worst app of them all. Grindr. This application is great for emotional manipulation, lustful people, liars, highly defensive people, toxic men, bored people, careless boys, childish men, cheaters, and many more. I hate this application. It was the worst. The men are cold, rude, annoying, and pretentious. They really have to get off their high horse and realize they are on the same application like everyone else. The reason why I didn’t leave sooner was because I thought this was the only way to meet someone for a hook up, date, hangout, or love without embarrassing myself by hitting on a straight man. The application made me think this is the best and ONLY way to meet love. In the past, I deleted the app but not the profile. I always thought well if this doesn’t work out then I’ll go back on grindr. My excuses were I have some guys on there I still chat with, it’s the best way to know if some is interested in men, it has good people on there, and so on. I did not realize that this app was toxic to my mentality. It made me believe love is just around the corner, the guy you saw in the store might be gay, or that online dating is for everyone. I could go on hours, but overall worst application. If you think love can happen in minutes, it doesn’t. I’m not saying to delete all the application for dating. I am saying that the app may not be as glamorous as advertised. There is nothing better than meeting your future lover in a place you love like a game, restaurant, the gym, or a dog park.

What I learned from each of these apps are valuable. Grindr taught me that true happiness starts with you. You can only get as much love as much as you love yourself. We cannot rely on someone else to make us purely happy. Tinder taught me that looks aren’t everything and if the person only care about your looks and don’t compliment on anything else, leave them be and know that you are amazing inside and out. Bumble taught me that quality guys can still have the same habits as terrible men. We do not deserve someone who makes us compromise everything.

Take care y’all. And love yourself and improve everyday.