Toxic Culture

Toxic. A simple word that has been spreading this decade. We have toxic relationships, friendship, and traits. What makes something toxic? Basically, anything that keeps you in a negative state of mind. Some examples for a toxic relationship could be a controlling lover, an abuser, a liar, a manipulator, or a user. Why people can’t get out these relationships is being the toxic giver poisoned their mentality that makes then feel reliant on the other one. They wear them down to the point where they feel useless without them. Others may say just leave but it is easier said than done. The victim thinks they need the toxic person because they feel stuck there. Like, they have no place to go and can’t achieve anything else or do anything without them. Your brain can only take so much toxicity eventually you’ll end up dead either for real or mentally.

Toxic friends are tricky because we have the tendency to make excuses like we’ve been friends for years or I don’t want to break the friend group. What makes a friend toxic? They can’t really abuse you. But, toxicity is all about mentality. Ask yourself this. Do you have to act like someone else with this friend? Do you feel they ask for favors but can’t help you when you need them? Do they have to competitive with you? If you answer yes to any of these, you might a have a toxic friend. The best solution is to reflect on your friendship and see if they value you as much as you value them. Don’t reflect on the number of years you known then or how your other friends are friends with them.

The last toxic culture is yourself. Accurately, what toxic traits do you have that may affect yourself or others around you. A great example is peer pressuring other in activities that they don’t want to participate in. Another example could be being pessimistic. Ask yourself if your actions or behavior affects others moods. If they do, how can you change it.

What People Need To Hear

Everyone has that one friend that always vents about the same exact topic for the past week. It can get annoying for the listener to hear the same chatter over and over again. So what can you do in this situation? You can always nod you head yes and say yeah so they can vent. Sometimes, friends just someone to talk to and fume out their problems. However, there are so much we can take hearing the same thing over and over again. Well, it is obvious that they need to hear the truth that hear what they want to hear. How can we tell them our advice if they are always the one talking? Easy just ask them if they want a solution to their problem. Being straight forward to people can be helpful. You are not being mean, you are being honest. Another tip is to make sure that the person is solving their own problems. They cannot always rely on you when they have an issue. Let them solve it. You are just hinting at them what to do.